Losing a Friend
Amanda has a timely post on friendships. Rather than hijack her post, I decided I'd put my lengthy comments here instead.
I value my friendships deeply...perhaps more than is appropriate.
I've lost damn near all of them in the last year. It's been a TOUGH year. And at times like this, when the world seems to be falling apart around me, it's worse than ever to have that feeling of abandonment from the people who you thought would stand by you no matter what.
I've found that there are very few that may disagree with you but don't jump ship when the waters are rough.
I honestly can't ever remember walking away from a friend. And I've tried hard to reconnect with others. At my core, I guess I'm too trusting, even when it's not deserved. But I don't know how to be any other way.
posted by NWJR @ 8:43 AM
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I think I'm too trusting. I've let so many people walk all over me, but once I stood up for myself, they walked away. The ones who hurt me the most are the ones I cared about most. Oh well, I'll be your friend...but you should know that you're stuck with me forever.
I was going to leave my own long comment here, but I think I'll follow your lead and put it in my own blog instead, since there's so much to say on the subject.
"I've let so many people walk all over me, but once I stood up for myself, they walked away."
Wow. That sounds like you've been living my life. Seriously.
I've lost damn near all of them in the last year. It's been a TOUGH year. And at times like this, when the world seems to be falling apart around me, it's worse than ever to have that feeling of abandonment from the people who you thought would stand by you no matter what.
I've found that there are very few that may disagree with you but don't jump ship when the waters are rough.
I've been on the one on the shrinking ship and the one that had to jump off (and I am very loyal but have learned to stop being a doormat for people.)
It's difficult on both ends when that happens. It's one tough situation to endure but I truly
believe it happens for a reason.
"I've found that there are very few that may disagree with you but don't jump ship when the waters are rough."
So, so true. I feel those words very closely.
I feel that way quite often myself.
To "anonymous" (post deleted)--it's not about you. And I'm not having a pity party. But your condescension is duly noted. It's always easier to move on when you have other options, isn't it?
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